relationship dynamics


Intimate Relationship Dynamics:

Unconscious patterns of habitual interaction.

They make partners automatically react to each other in set ways.

You have the same argument or unpleasant discussion over and over, creating cycles of resentment, hostility, and despair.

Once an IRD gets activated, the content of the exchange, whether serious or trivial, doesn’t matter; both partners slip into their habitual reactions.

Instead of working as a team to solve the problem…

Partners see each other as the problem.

They view each other as opponents at first, and eventually as enemies.

The course shows how to prevent IRDs…

And how to deactivate them when you slip back to old habits.

Course Content

  • It Feels as If You’re in a Bad Play
  • The Demand-Withdraw Dynamic
  • The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic
  • The Fear-Shame Dynamic
  • The Endless Treadmill of IRDs
  • The Nuclear-Powered Engine of IRDs
  • Core Value
  • Binocular Vision
  • The Power Love Formula
  • The Antidote to IRDs
  • Deactivating IRDs
  • Relationship Repair

Each of the above Webinars is accompanied by text quizzes and/or exercises.



If chronic resentment, anger, or emotional abuse is part of your relationship, before you take this course, do the work of the Love without Hurt Boot Camp.

You will be returned to the download page immediately after purchase. You also have the option of viewing the Webinars online. 

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