Love without Hurt
The millions of people who walk on eggshells in their homes spend most of their time trying to avoid criticism, resentment, anger, put-downs, or cold shoulders from their intimate partners. They have so often self-edited and second-guessed themselves over matters large and small that they have lost a sense of who they are. The pain of walking on eggshells can persist for years and have devastating effects on the children in the family.
If you live with a resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive partner, you must reclaim your unique core value, which is determined solely by you, not by how you are treated. Reclaiming your core value leads to compassion for the self-destructive tendencies of your resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive partner; because you care, you can no longer accept behavior that makes him hate himself. You must compassionately insist that he stop immediately. Help is available in the book, Love without Hurt: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One.
If you are a resentful, angry, or abusive partner, you must realize that you like yourself when you’re compassionate and caring to the people you love and that you don’t like yourself when you are resentful or angry at them, much less abusive to them.
Relationship expert Dr. Steven Stosny has been featured on national media for the revolutionary techniques he uses in his CompassionPower and Boot Camp programs, which help men rewire their resentment and anger, stop using emotionally abusive language and behavior, and compassionately recommit to their marriages and families. Now, for the first time, in LOVE WITHOUT HURT: Turn Your Resentful, Angry or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One, Dr. Stosny puts his effective, highly sought-after program into print, making it widely available for the first time for people who want to stop walking on eggshells.
Drawing on his seventeen years of experience treating more than 4,500 clients, Dr. Stosny explains the many different forms a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship can take, and offers advice on:
- How to prevent resentment from turning into emotional abuse.
- How to identify abuse and change abusive behavior.
- How to determine if change is permanent.
- How to stop resentment from affecting your children.
- Actions to take if you are a resentful or angry partner.
- Why marriage counseling, individual psychotherapy, anger-management, and abuser groups can make resentment and abuse worse.
- How to recover from the pain and abuse by practicing self-healing skills that help you reclaim your natural sense of competence and confidence.
Using language and tactics that are more compassionate and accessible than in any other book on relationship abuse, LOVE WITHOUT HURT presents a practical program that both women and men can use to replace resentment, anger, verbal aggression, and emotional abuse with compassion.
Dr. Steven Stosny has demonstrated his highly successful recovery program on such national television programs as “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” “CBS Sunday Morning,” and CNN’s “Talkback Live” and “Anderson Cooper 360” and has appeared on numerous radio talk shows. He has been quoted by, or been the subject of articles in, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Washington Times, Chicago Tribune, U.S. News & World Report, The Wall Street Journal, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen, Mademoiselle, Women’s World, O, The Oprah Magazine, Psychology Today, AP, Reuters, and USA Today.