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Intimate Relationship Dynamics


Intimate Relationship Dynamics (IRDs) are unconscious interactive patterns in which both parties automatically react to each other in set ways. You have the same argument or unpleasant discussion over and over, creating cycles of resentment, hostility, and despair.

Once an IRD is activated, the content of the exchange, whether serious or trivial, doesn’t matter; both partners slip into their habitual reactions. Instead of working as a team to solve the problem, the partners see each other as the problem. They view each other as opponents at first, and eventually as enemies.

Dr. Stosny will present an interactive course on IRDs on three consecutive Saturdays, beginning June 8, 2019, at 1pm EDT.

June 8 session:

  • It Feels as If You’re in a Bad Play
  • The Demand-Withdraw Dynamic
  • The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic
  • Discussion with Participants

During the week participants are expected to review Quizzes Part 1.

June 15 session:

  • The Fear-Shame Dynamic
  • The Endless Treadmill of IRDs
  • The Nuclear-Powered Engine of IRDs
  • Discussion with participants.

During the week participants are expected to review on their own:

▪ Binocular Vision (pre-recorded Webinar)
▪ The Power Love Formula (pre-recorded Webinar)
Quizzes Part II.

June 22 session

  • The Antidote to IRDs
  • Deactivating IRDs
  • Relationship Repair
  • Discussion with participants.