Special Love without Hurt Boot Camp

At a Special Price

In Beautiful Trinidad

Turn Resentment, Anger, Verbal Abuse, or Emotional Abuse into Compassion


January 30-Feb. 1, Kapok Hotel

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To meet the many requests for the Boot Camp treatment demonstrated on three Oprah Winfrey shows, Dr. Steven Stosny is pleased to repeat his highly successful group version.

This three-day seminar provides all the information and skills you need to heal the effects of chronic resentment, anger, or emotionally abusive behavior. It includes:

  • 24 hours in-class education and training
  • 10 hours recorded webinars
  • 3 hours of follow-up telecourse in which you can ask questions of Dr. Stosny.

The boot camp will help you develop a Healing Identity that marshals your resilience, strengths, and desire to improve your life for healing and growth. The tone is healing, not accusatory, compassionate not blaming, valuing not devaluing, and, most of all, empowering.

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Drawing on his 25 years of experience treating more than 6,000 clients, Dr. Stosny teaches:

  • How reclaim your natural sense of competence, confidence, and compassion
  • How to stop resentment, anger, or emotional abuse from hurting your children
  • How to be the person and partner you most want to be
  • How to be motivated by your deepest values

What you’ll learn:

  • You can be abusive without intending to be
  • The latest scientific knowledge of how emotions work
  • The hidden role of fear and shame in relationships.

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Testimonials from Participants: "My husband and I are so grateful for Dr. Stosny and his program. Both of our lives have dramatically changed for the better. I have also received a tremendous physical healing since the Boot Camp. I have suffered terribly with Fibromyalgia for many years but since I began Dr. Stosny's program, all of my FM pain and symptoms have gone. My doctors are amazed and so am I. Thank you, Dr. Stosny!"

"Dr. Stosny's approach to changing the patterns of emotional and verbal abuse works; regardless of the role you have in the relationship. I have hope for the first time in many years. He gave me practical tools to apply to my relationship."

"I saw the Oprah shows, when Dr. Stosny was a guest. They were discussing the different types of relationship abuse, and the CompassionPower program that Dr. Stosny developed to help abusers learn to change their abusive behavior. After the show, I logged on to this website. After doing more reading I came to the realization that Verbal/ Emotional abuse towards me, by my spouse, was the reason for the problems in our marriage. I have since then visited this website for information many times. My spouse has finally given up the denial, and is ready to accept help with changing his behavior. It would be an answer to my prayers if a CompassionPower program is available in our area for him to attend. Your appearance on The Oprah Show, and the existence of your website, have been almost like life savers to me!"

"I am so grateful to Dr. Stosny. You were able to reach my husband in a way no one ever has before, and he said so. And I am working on my approaches from new ways that you taught."

“Dr. Stosny has a brilliant program. He is a dynamic and fascinating lecturer, with a strong knowledge base in psychology, neuropsychology, anthropology, and animal behavior. His program for abusers is the work of a genius…and it is proving to be the most successful program for the abusers out there.”

From Redbook:

"I was about to separate from Steve for the third time in our marriage when he announced he was going to a Smart Marriages Conference in Denver. Frankly, I doubted that a short conference would make any difference. When he came home, though, I noticed an immediate change: He didn't yell, and he was very affectionate. When he mentioned that Dr. Steven Stosny, the program's founder, also offered a three-day-long boot camp, I thought he should definitely go. If one day did this much, what could three days do? The answer: a miracle. After boot camp, Steve was able to admit for the first time in 20 years the damage and pain he had caused, and he became willing to work on healing our marriage. It wasn't easy; it took a full year for me to feel sure that Steve's anger issues were no longer a part of our relationship. But it was worth it.

"Today, we love spending time with each other, and we even teach a class at our church to help couples improve their marriages. We celebrated our renewed connection by finally taking that seven-day cruise, and this time, I was more than happy to be stuck with Steve in the middle of the ocean.

"Steve: Amy and I used to fight about everything. Over the course of our marriage, I became increasingly demanding and raised my voice if I felt like I wasn't heard, which would cause Amy to shut down and get scared. When she canceled our cruise because she didn't want to be alone with me for seven days, it was a big wake-up call. I wasn't ready to give up on us, so I went online and literally went shopping for advice and professionals that could help us in a short amount of time. I came across a conference called Smart Marriages. I was looking for an experience that was different from our failed marriage counseling sessions.

"The conference helped me accept that I had an anger problem, and while there, I discovered that Dr. Stosny offers a three-day boot camp specifically for men to learn how to handle anger. At the camp, I practiced responding to hurt feelings with compassion instead of anger. I basically trained my brain with a new choice — to protect my wife instead of responding in anger. Over time, Amy has grown to trust and feel safe with me because I've stopped raising my voice, and I try to meet her needs. She associates me with positive feelings instead of negative ones. It's absolutely worth doing, and I'm so glad I did."

What happened to love, honor and cherish? There's help for marriages mired in mutual resentment" - article about the boot camp in the St. Paul Pioneer Press

Day 1, 9am-12pm - Commitments and foundational information

Day 1, 1pm-6 - Self-regulation skills - Core Value and HEALS

Day 2, 9 am-12:pm - Review of crucial self-regulation material

Day 2, 1pm -4 - Exercises for overcoming criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, resentment

Day 3, 9 am-12 pm - Exercises for overcoming contempt, working through blind spots in interactions with loved ones, and developing the most important relationship skill: binocular vision

Day 3, 1 pm-6 - Relationship repair, establishing safety and protection, overcoming post traumatic stress, connection dilemmas, connection strategies, relapse prevention.
(All times are Eastern, US.)

Registration includes 24 hours of workshop, handouts, HEALS, beverages, and snacks. It also includes 11 recorded Webinars:

  • Core Value
  • Core Value Narratives
  • Temperamental clashes
  • Overcoming Relationship Destroyers
  • Jealousy
  • Anxiety
  • Binocular Vision
  • Love and Negotiation
  • Maintaining Gains
  • Rebuilding a Betrayed Relationship
  • The Reconnection Dilemma

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