Unequal Love and Sexual Desire

Relationships in which the level or intensity of love and/or sexual desire is unequal are prone to resentment, anger, and emotional abuse.


The person who loves less and/or wants less sexual contact feels guilty and unable to meet the needs of the person who loves or wants more.


The person who loves more and/or wants more sexual contact feels rejected and unworthy.


If they are unable to sympathize with one another's core hurts, they will likely numb their pain with resentment, anger, or emotional abuse.

If the level of love or sexual desire is unequal in your relationship, the following core value decision trees can help.