Private Boot Camps with Dr. Stosny, similar to those seen on the Oprah Winfrey Show, are held in Maryland, near Washington, DC. They are three 8-hour days days at $2,400 per day.

Resentment, anger, and abuse are infections of the heart. They attack the very foundation of our humanity, which is our ability to form bonds of compassion and love with the most important persons in our lives. The Boot Camp approach to healing the heart is an intensive “psychosurgery.” Like physical surgery, it produces dramatic change in a short time. We cut out the infection, instead of treating it with a little bit of salve administered weekly over many months, as in traditional therapy. The workshop goes far beyond anger control, violence or anger management classes.

If you were to treat the problem an hour or two at a time every week or so you would set yourself up for failure. As it is, after each brief intervention session, most families go home to a tense atmosphere to try to use concepts they are not completely clear about and have not had time to master. The next week they go back to therapy or group feeling like a failure. The therapist or instructor spends most of the next session trying to undo the damage done between sessions. Progress is painfully slow and tenuous. Even when longer treatments work, which is less than half the time, they take quite a while to show progress. Meanwhile, the suffering at home continues for months on end.

Relationship expert Dr. Steven Stosny has been featured on national media for the revolutionary techniques he uses in his CompassionPower and Boot Camp programs, which help men rewire their resentment and anger, stop using emotionally abusive language and behavior, and compassionately recommit to their marriages and families.

Drawing on his seventeen years of experience treating more than 4,500 clients, Dr. Stosny explains the many different forms a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship can take, and offers advice on:

• How to prevent resentment from turning into emotional abuse.
• How to identify abuse and change abusive behavior.
• How to determine if change is permanent.
• How to stop resentment from affecting your children.
• Actions to take if you are a resentful or angry partner.
• Why marriage counseling, individual psychotherapy, anger-management, and abuser groups can make resentment and abuse worse.
• How to recover from the pain and abuse by practicing self-healing skills that help you reclaim your natural sense of competence and confidence.

What you'll learn:

• You can be abusive without intending to be
• The hidden role of fear and shame in relationships
• Core hurts make us feel powerless, inadequate, unlovable, and resentful
• The corrosive, contagious nature of resentment, including its impact on children
• What women can do to undo the toll of their partner's criticism and rejection.

In addition, you'll learn how to:

• Remove the thorns from your heart and regain your true self
• Regulate resentment, anger, and the impulse to abuse automatically, without having to stop and think about it
• Replace power struggles with mutual empowerment and loving reconnection
• Establish a deeper connection based on compassion
• Prevent relapse
• Know whether your partner's change is permanent.

Getting Your Partner to Attend a Boot Camp

Testimonials from Participants: “My husband and I are so grateful for Dr. Stosny and his program. Both of our lives have dramatically changed for the better. I have also received a tremendous physical healing since the Boot Camp. I have suffered terribly with Fibromyalgia for many years but since I began Dr. Stosny's program, all of my FM pain and symptoms have gone. My doctors are amazed and so am I. Thank you, Dr. Stosny!”

“Attending Dr. Stosny's Stop Walking on Eggshells Workshop was a life-changing experience. First, I learned that my husband and I were both walking on eggshells, and this class was applicable to both of us. Though the abuse was his problem, we both were angry and resentful towards each other. We arrived fairly hopeless and unsure of what to expect. Since the workshop, we have a newfound peace in our home and appreciation for each other. We have re-discovered compassion for each other. I have learned how to stop walking on eggshells. I have learned how to care for myself which allows me to care for others. Thank you Dr. Stosny. I can't recommend this program enough!”

“I went to the seminar hoping my husband could change...I left realizing it I was who had the power to change, it was I who needed to have compassion, not only for my husband but mostly for myself. Thank you Dr. Stosny for showing me there is so much life to live. Now even the smallest things I see mean so much, realizing that I have been created to enjoy this and so much more. Because of you I am slowly realizing the value in so so much....more importantly the value in myself.”

“Dr. Stosny's approach to changing the patterns of emotional and verbal abuse works; regardless of the role you have in the relationship. I have hope for the first time in many years. He gave me practical tools to apply to my relationship.”

“I saw the Oprah shows last fall, when Dr. Stosny was a guest. They were discussing the different types of relationship abuse, and the CompassionPower program that Dr. Stosny developed to help abusers learn to change their abusive behavior. After the show, I logged on to this website. After doing more reading I came to the realization that Verbal/ Emotional abuse towards me, by my spouse, was the reason for the problems in our marriage. I have since then visited this website for information many times. My spouse has finally given up the denial, and is ready to accept help with changing his behavior. It would be an answer to my prayers if a CompassionPower program is available in our area for him to attend. Your appearance on The Oprah Show, and the existence of your website, have been almost like life savers to me!”

“Dr. Stosny taught us how to stop the abuse as well as how to open the door to a happier, healthier and more compassionate relationship with our loved ones and with everyone else in our lives. I witnessed and experienced, first hand, the success of Dr. Stosny's brilliant program. I recommend Dr. Stosny's program to anyone and everyone.”

“My husband and I attended the Chicago Boot Camp this past January and it was an amazingly positive experience. Our marriage/relationship has made quantum leaps in the areas of respecting and valuing each other and our children. The ‘reconnection' aspect of the program has been awesome. There's so much more fun, connectedness and compassion in our relationship. Everyone in our family is a ‘happier camper.' Dr. Stosny is a genius. I recommend his Boot Camp to every couple.”

“I am so grateful to Dr. Stosny. You were able to reach my husband in a way no one ever has before, and he said so. And I am working on my approaches from new ways that you taught.”

“I just want to say that I believe in what you are doing! I believe that this was the only way to help my husband. He had gone to two different anger management counselors (court ordered for a year at a time). They never helped. The counseling we started would always end when it seemed like the counselor would start to deal with him and what he needed to change and work on. It was a venting session and he would try to portray me as the villain and it was all my fault—he had reasons to justify his actions. I have gotten an extra book and given it to my counselor. I am reading the information over and over and pick up some more every time. Thank you for all that you did and have done. May God Bless you greatly!”

“Dr. Stosny has a brilliant program. He is a dynamic and fascinating lecturer, with a strong knowledge base in psychology, neuropsychology, anthropology, and animal behavior. His program for abusers is the work of a genius…and it is proving to be the most successful program for the abusers out there.”

To arrange a private boot camp with Dr. Stosny, write "boot camp" in the subject line in your email.

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