How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It: Finding Love beyond Words reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness: Love is not about better communication; it's about connection. If you feel connected, it's easy to communicate. If you feel disconnected, it's almost impossible, no matter how carefully you choose your words.
Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied an all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your marriage doesn't bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart, increasing resentment and decreasing compassion.
Underneath most couples' fights, there is a biological mechanism observed in most social animals, in which anxiety or fear of females stimulates aggression or shame in males. A woman's vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man's subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can't happen through words. Take the Fear-Shame Quiz for Women or for Men.
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking about It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don't require “trying to turn a man into a woman or a woman into a man.” Full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.
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Love , Ed.D., is an acclaimed therapist and speaker and author
of four books, including Hot Monogamy and The Truth About
Love . She has appeared on Oprah and Today and on CNN, and has contributed
to many magazines, including Cosmopolitan and Self.