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Saturday, April 25 2015

Changing Abusers

Get Unstuck!
Home Training Course Makes Your Abuser Intervention More Effective
8 to 28-hour Enhancement of Your Abuser Intervention Program

As a pre-cursor to existing programs for abusers or as a stand-alone intervention, we guarantee to:

  • Reduce recidivism
  • Reduce dropouts
  • Greatly reduce client resistance
  • Make it impossible for abusers to blame or shift responsibility for their thoughts, emotions, and behavior
  • Develop a conditioned response that will automatically replace the impulse to control with compassion for self and loved ones
  • Include compassionate child-rearing techniques to break the cycle of violence.
8 to 28-hour Enhancement Module
Teaches abusers:
  • That their chronic sense of powerlessness is caused by blaming their emotional states on their victims
  • That hurting the people they love is the most self-destructive thing they can do
  • How to regulate the chronic states of guilt, shame, anxiety, and powerlessness that they try to mask with controlling, dominant, and abusive behavior.
Why They Deny and Minimize
Why is it hard for abusers to admit that they abuse power?
They feel powerless most of the time. They see us as merely perpetuating the assaults of an unfair world, as we confront them with our superior values.

The secret of successful intervention is to help perpetrators see that abuse of their loved ones violates their own deepest values.

What They Never Deny
Their own deepest values require them to treat those they love with respect and compassion. When they fail, their own emotions go to war against them. Aggression against loved ones results inevitably in self-loathing.

The only way to feel powerful, beyond a short-lived adrenalin rush, is to increase self-value and, simultaneously, the value of those they love.

The intervention and its theoretical and empirical support are laid out in: Treating Attachment Abuse, by Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

What Motivates Power and Control?
  • Failure of compassion
  • The inability to hold onto self-value when experiencing emotional discomfort
The abuser’s constant warning to victims is: “Don’t make me feel something I can’t handle.”

  1. Dedication to a Heroine
  2. Not about Attitudes
  3. The Causal Formula
  4. Necessary Condition for Change
  5. Blame and Powerlessness
  6. ailure of Compassion
  7. Emotion and Abuse
  8. The Purpose of Anger
  9. Resentment and Health
  10. Causing Change
  11. Core Value
  13. Core Value Block
  14. Reconditioning
  15. Compassionate Parenting
  16. Discipline of Children
  17. Children and Media Violence
  18. Violent Children
  19. Deadly Mistakes
  20. Protect Your Well Being
  21. Why We Hurt the Ones We Love
  22. The Hardest Population
  23. Catching Compassion
  24. Special Military Challenge
  25. Family Violence and Aggressive Driving
  26. The Importance of Evaluation
Home Training Download
  • DVD: graphics and narration of the most salient points of the intervention
  • Manual for Clients
  • Introduction for Group Leaders (emailed)
  • Instruments for measuring success (emailed)
  • HEALSTM download

$39  Contact us