Reviews
Reviews
of Love without Hurt: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One
Library Journal
Stosny has put into words the techniques used in his
successful Compassion-Power and Boot Camp programs, which help women who
have been subjected to criticism, put-downs, or cold shoulders from their
husbands or boyfriends. Complete with checklists, case studies, and well-researched
information, his program not only shows the damage that verbally and emotionally
abusive relationships do to spouses and children but also demonstrates how
to change them, with guidance for both parties. For their part, women are
directed to practice self-healing skills. Clear, timely, and on the mark;
recommended for all libraries. Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
Publishers Weekly
If you're always walking on eggshells around your partner, Stosny is writing
for you. The CompassionPower founder and relationship expert draws examples
and exercises from his experience working with couples as he discusses core
values, anger management, power struggles and reconstruction. Resentment
is Stosny's main target (not possible underlying depression, anxiety or
other factors). The approach may provide false hope if the reader's reality
is too complex for self-help, but it could also foster important life changes.
(Jan. 10)
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Inc. All rights reserved.
"This book is revolutionary, compassionate, clear, practical, and generous.
Revolutionary and compassionate in that it will change forever the way we
understand emotional abuse and the heart of the abuser. Clear and practical
in that it gives easy-to-follow, step-by-step guidelines for recovery. Generous
in that it's all there -- the whole approach. Nothing else to buy. I highly
recommend it to couples and to anyone working with couples." -- Diane
Sollee, founder and director, Coalition for Marriage, Family & Couples
Education, www.smartmarriages.com
"No other book gives such help and hope to relationships plagued by
emotional and verbal abuse. Written with compassion, You Don't Have to Take
It Anymore is a gift to you as well as the people you love." -- Pat
Love, EdD, author of The Truth About Love and Hot Monogamy
"In these pages, Stosny breaks the code of family violence and provides
family members from all walks of life with a Rosetta stone on how to act
and be different. His program is remarkable because it works. Simply stated,
this book has a profound chance of changing family violence forever."
-- Terry Hargrave, PhD, author of Forgiving the Devil and Professor of Counseling,
West Texas A&M University
This is an important book for everyone in every stage of a relationship,
to heal and make whole the love we begin with. Give it as a wedding gift,
birthday present, parenting gift. This is knowledge and understanding we
all need to be able to heal ourselves and preserve our most cherished relationships.
-- Lori H. Gordon, Ph.D. founder of PAIRS.
"This stunning book will touch men and women in powerful and different
ways. A hard-nosed yet compassionate and hopeful look into the heart of
toxic resentment in marriage. No married man or woman who reads this book
carefully will be the same afterward." -- William J. Doherty, PhD,
Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of
Minnesota, author of Take Back Your Marriage
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 The
Best of it's Genre , January 10, 2006 Applying
the information in Dr. Stosny's book will change one's life over time
and provide immediate hope and comfort for those of us who are in
a relationship where, over time, we have learned to "walk on eggshells"
in order to avoid anger, resentment, or emotional abandonment by our
spouse. I give my highest recommendation to this book, and I've read
many that are meant to be helpful in dealing with this type of difficulty.
 Hope
for the hopeless! , January 9, 2006
Dr.
Stosny has the ability to make complex concepts understandable.
Better yet, he has the ability to show others how to apply the principles
he teaches! This book is a warm, hope-filled testimony to the power
of compassion, and a catalyst for changing lives. I like the fact
that it doesn't take two to begin the healing process in a relationship
-- you can begin today, with or without your spouse or significant
other. No more waiting for him or her to change, no more feelings
of being held hostage emotionally, no more hopelessness. This is
a book worth reading whether you need it for yourself, or want to
recommend it to others.
Diane Nicholson, MA, Springhill Center for Family Development
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 If
you only read one book this year, READ THIS ONE. , January 9, 2006
I
have been healed emotionally and physicaly through applying Dr. Stosny's
principles. The CompassionPower principles presented in this book have
dramatically changed every area of my life for the better. Learning how
to do HEALS in Dr. Stosny's Boot Camp have made all the difference and
I finally have compassion for myself, my family members and even for my
abusers. I now understand why I have had so many problems with resentment
and unhealthy anger. True compassion is growing in side of me daily, freeing
me from my past and giving me the power to make decisions that are in
my long term best interest. I thank God every day for Dr. Stosny. Sincerely,
Joan B
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 Life Changing
Program , March 7, 2006
Steven
Stosny's book and Boot Camp program are a life changing event. I am a stubborn
Marine with 45+ years of doing things one way, without compassion. It clearly
wasn't working and I knew it. I have been working on changing for more than
20 years. While working through this program I experienced an epiphany that
has opened a floodgate of positive change in my life. As a result of Steven
Stosny, this book and his programs, my life will never be the same.
If you are a man, and you have the guts to admit that what you are doing isn't
working this book and actively pursuing the program outlined in it will change
you for the better.
 A
method that WORKS , February 17, 2006
This book is clearly and compassionately written and gives directions
that have changed my life! I can't reccommend it too highly. Give
yourself the gift of this book. It will comfort you and teach you
how to have a happy life whether anyone else changes or not. My experience
has been that when I changed, things got better, even though I thought
other people were the/my problem. |
 You
Don't Have to Take It Anymore , February 12, 2006
I have been in the psychotherapy field for 40 years, and I have never
run across a book as impactful on abusive men as this one, which I
first read about in an email newsletter from SmartMarriages. The author,
Steven Stosny, PhD, presents the material in a manner that engages
both the abuser (usually male) and his spouse or partner. It is eminently
practical and, more importantly, IT WORKS! I have had abusive clients
read it, like it, and sign up for one of Dr Stosny's "Bootcamp" weekends
without my suggesting it, then return from their experience already
making significant changes. When an abused spouse reports feeling
calm, that's something. When her spouse doesn't fly into a rage when
she tells him she still doesn't trust that his changes will last,
that's impressive.
The book is divided into four parts: Walking on Eggshells, Reclaiming
the Self, The Boot Camp (for the abuser), and Resurrection for Your
Marriage.
If you're an abuser, buy this book and practice what Dr. Stosny teaches.
If you're a clinician, buy the book and begin using it in your practice.
George Polley, MSW, LICSW
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 Learning
to Value yourself is the beginning........... , February
10, 2006
If
all this book taught were the concept of and ability to value yourself,
it would be a wonder for just that. But that's just the beginning.
A friend of mine said that through 3 years of therapy he only learned
all the causes for his anger, but the method Steven Stosny explains
in this book taught him how to stop being angry. It's not just a
feel-good book, it can help you make real, positive, permanent changes
in your life and in your marriage. Dr. Stosny's not only has deep
insight into attachment relationsships; he makes it easy to understand
and act on. |
 Enlightening
and Powerful! , February 8, 2006
"You
Don't Have to Take It Anymore" provides all the tools you need to
HEAL from angry and resentful relationships. By empowering the reader
to take action to change every relationship in their lives, the
feeling of powerlessness that walking on eggshells creates disappears
for good! Dr. Stosny's approach of using compassion to heal "The
Powerful Self" (another great book by Stosny!) is both enlightening
and unique! Do yourself a favor - Learn and implement this material!
If you do, your life WILL change for the better!
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 An
amazing book! , January 24, 2006
I
borrowed this book from the library and liked it so much I bought
a copy. It is very easy to understand and make significant changes
for the better in how you see yourself and in your relationship.
I've tried the program outlined in the book and it works! And it
works if you just do it yourself for yourself. I highly recommend
this book. Thank you Dr. Stosny. |
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